Katie Vogel , Senior Writer

When I was giving the assignment following the book The Awakening by Kate Chopin to talk about motherhood and the concept of the “Mother-Woman”  in my Voices of Women class, it was the first time I truly began to think about the different ways motherhood has impacted my life. I was adopted a few days after birth and throughout my entire life I had different ideas about my birth mother. I was always told different stories about my birth mother; they ranged from her being too young or being told that she was not in the right situation to be able to raise twins. I never understood that as a little kid and the concept of the “Mother-Woman” helped me to figure out my thoughts in those moments. The “Mother-Woman” is a concept that being a mother is a part of woman and that some women are meant to be in that position. That concept played a very significant role in my imagination as a child about who my birth mother may be.

As I began to grow older the perception changed into a focus of the family that I have now. As I grew older, I was able to ask more questions and I realized that the family I have now, especially the mother I have now, fully represented what I used to think of as my birth mother. My mother was given the opportunity to love beyond just the child she gave birth to because of adoption. Everything that my mother has done throughout my life has been with love and has given me and my siblings a better opportunity at life. This entire concept of the “Mother-Woman” in a modern sense, emcompasses who my mother is. It was through my mother and father going through five years of fight and hard work that brought me to the family and life that I am so incredibly grateful to have.

This new realization gave me a new perspective on my birth mother. I realized that motherhood is not for everyone, and that is okay. There was a character throughout the novel that struggled to love her children to the full capacity and it affected her own individual happiness. I thought about what my life would be like if adoption was never an option. By going back to the “Mother-Woman,” I began to realize that my birth mother was most likely not able to embody motherhood and that adoption gave someone who wanted the opportunity to spread love. Motherhood comes in many different aspects, and I have been able to see the power of a mothers love through my mother now, and my birth mother.